colector: [JournalWriting] Walks Marriage is expensive

Yes I would say marriage is an expensive thing thats why I didn't
really want to go through a big marriage drama because thats what it
would of been to me. I mean does anyone keep favours from weddings? I
remember what the bride and groom were wearing and the flowers and food
at weddings and that is about it. When we do the Paris wedding we have
already let people know we don't want or need gifts--not even
monetarily. We just want our family and close friends there to
celebrate the marriage with us. Just the plane fare to Paris is enough
of an expense for my 2 friends so basically I said as long as you are
there then that is more than enough for me. We're putting my 2 friends
up in a very nice hotel and feeding them the majority of the time so
basically beyond the plane fare they are pretty scott free in terms of
expenses. So the Hawaii bit wasn't expensive minus the expedited
paperwork part.

I know bridesmaids have quite a bit of expense going on at weddings so
I didn't want to burden anyone with that either but I just didn't want
the fuss and drama with it. I like people wearing comfortable clothes
really and we'll be married in a beach type ceremony. I'd rather be
pretty much alone before the ceremony anyhow minus my best friend and
my mom.

Pretty much the only major expense is going to be the flowers and the
after ceremony dinner soiree'. My dress I suppose is an expense but I
got the dress at a pretty good steal. (a wedding dress is a steal at
$900? Katiya needs her head examined!) I'm not wearing a veil because I
would dislike a veil on me. For jewelry I am wearing some of Adian's
family heirlooms that go perfectly with the dress. Just a choker
necklace and a bracelet and earrings. The dress was less expensive than
if I went to a high end bridal shop and its exactly what I wanted. Its
ivory with gold undertones because I am a bit fair skinned--almost
pale. I think total expense for our Paris wedding will be around $5000.
(Which is quite criminal if you ask me!) The main expenses are the food
and flowers. Of course the ceremony adds into it and some other
miscellany. My bouquet will be some nice flowers tied together but not
too big since I am kind of small and I don't want them to overpower.

Great job on the flats and kick ass dress. Sucks about the expense
though. I remember when my sister and cousin were married that the
bridesmaids didn't have to pay for their dresses or shoes. It was added
into the expense of the wedding. I seem to remember my sister's wedding
being around $11,000 back in 1988 or so and my cousin was married in
1991 and it was around the same or a little more.

A wedding for me is about the commitment part only and that trumps all
the other parts of it. I just don't find having a large overdrawn
circus atmosphere necessary. I know Aidan is quite the believer of
being tied together by marriage but hes not religious. Hes an odd
fellow sometimes because he is so not traditional and I finally got him
to tell me why a marriage was so important to him and he said it was
because he wanted other fellows to know that it was hands off when it
came to me. What a caveman lol...

Kat