JoAnne Holliday <kittensmakemesmile@yahoo.com> wrote:
Are you a person like this?
1. No matter what some people post you consider it an improper post? And consider it has nothing to do with the group you are in that receives the post?
no, i figure each person has a right to say what he or she wants as long as it goes along w/ the group guidelines. regardless of whether i agree w/ it or not, that person has as much right to say what he or she wants -- just like i do. i also understand that by putting that post out there, that person is willing and ready to face the comments that come w/ it . . . just as i am when the comments come my way after a post. if a person wears his or her feelings on the outside and gets feelings hurt at every little whim, whether intended by someone else or not, then that person will just have to understand that maybe internet groups are not the best place for them. after all, we don't really KNOW each other, we won't see each other in person, and how much do we really affect each other's lives? does what someone else says change who i am or what i stand for or where i'm going in life -- no, it doesn't. just like my statements/comments/responses to someone else make no difference in the overall scheme of things.
2. Sometimes your posts hurt peoples feelings when you are just showing support?
if this has happened, i never knew about it. if i was showing support, then i would be very careful about my wording and tone of my writing. as w/ any writing, tone (inflection, feeling, sarcasm, etc) can't always be read in the writing. again, if the reader is wearing his or her feelings on the sleeve, then no matter what is said it will be taken the wrong way.
3. You listen to what negative things a person says about another person without checking with the 2nd party involved?
whether i read it or not doesn't mean i believe it. i generally don't ask the 2nd person's view on it, as who is to say that i would believe what that person had to say? after all, most people on death row are innocent by their own declaration! also, if the forum is free-speech oriented, then that first person has a right to state his or her opinion as long as it is not generally stated to intentionally slander another person, as that would be considered flaming and off-limits in most forums.
if this is something that you are having a problem with, perhaps you should look at your posts before you post them to see if they could be read as offensive to other people. obviously there is a communication problem somewhere. is it you? i can honestly say that i usually know before i post something whether i'm going to be offending people or not. if you are the one offending people, does it really matter to you? if so, why? do you really need those people's approval?
maybe these are all things you need to consider if you're going to be in groups on the internet. if the group doesn't make you happy or doesn't meet your needs -- leave it and find one that does. if you're the owner/moderator and people are not happy w/ you or in your group, then encourage them to find a group where they are happy. there are plenty of groups out there, so it shouldn't be too difficult!
best of luck!
jill
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